Swin this video I would like to share with you.
And another fascinating technique after that last abstracts business wisdom based video I just shared
with you this is there is a technique or an approach that you can take towards pretty much establishing
truth in the context of any situation any circumstance for anyone and with anyone because bear in mind
Most clients come your way coming your way they're not going to know what's actually true for them.
Most people are going to be more focussed on their perceived problems on how they perceive their problems
being be focussed on a more shen's who said what they're going to be caught up in.
Subjective experience subjective perspective emotional states all that sort of thing.
No as the coach you role is to help people who are caught in subjectivity get out of subjectivity and
into objectivity because most people when they're stuck in subjectivity can't see the woods for the
trees.
No.
If we were to go back to that video metaprogramming right you would remember that I gave reference to
global thing Veras and detailed thinkers.
No in some way everyone is going to fall into one of the two categories.
So this technique can be used with absolutely everyone to establish what's true.
Two questions and we're not offered it here.
They don't have to be really complex really complicated questions.
What an opening you start to see CEO.
After a shared that all powerful question before what do you mean by that.
We don't have to be rocket science is to help people move forward and give clarity in the context of
the data he likes.
This framework is taken from there from the MET a model which is another any oppty language pattern
communications model if you like and this is something that I have found to be a hugely useful tool
in the context of my life coaching or aim.
So yeah apologies this is an all life coaching is better than the huxham Bringing across everything
else that I've found across the years from all that other different than varied helping disciplines
so I grew up chopping choking down that is.
Sometimes people get caught in the details.
All right.
So say for example someone comes to you with.
Ah a word probated problem or they might have a problem with a maija or a boss or a conversation that
they've hired with someone that has turned south in some way and therefore pissed all the details of
focus on the problems.
What was said what wasn't said how they failed and how we get out of the details is by chunking up by
asking their questions.
Those are generally why questions or form.
For what purpose.
See for example someone someone comes to you and the quote and all the details and the tocking you have
to tell you all the ins and outs of a situation or a circumstance they've been involved in.
And again we raise our hands.
Whoa whoa whoa.
Sorry can't just.
Can you just help me understand why this is a problem for you to choke up.
Why is a problem for you.
So getting them away from the detail out of the smallness of the problem and into the bigger purpose
the reason the reason why their perceived problem is actually a problem for them.
So the two questions that I would use.
For what purpose and how specifically.
So once I've got them out of the details of the problem so why is this a problem.
Silkies saw reflection on the problem though we understand why the problem is a problem.
So what is it that we actually want.
We're looking to get away from that negative motivator.
We're looking to get them away from what they don't want.
As soon as physically possible and get their eyes focussed on what we do want some will happen to get
them out of negative focus and into positive focus.
As soon as physically possible and this isn't about wishful thinking or positive thinking it's about
just shifting mindset or getting them out of the emotional mind and perhaps across into more of the
reasonable the rational mind.
Right because this sway the shift in perspective comes from.
Which can sometimes be more than enough to help Pete help someone or anyone resolve their own problem
within minutes.
Phew.
I promise you this is so of so powerful stuff so.
Let's start again.
Someone's had a problem.
The cost of the smallness.
All the details.
He said this.
She said that I feel like this he feels like you are.
These are the details of the problem.
Stop.
I'm just wondering if you could answer this question a simplistic way as possible.
Why is this a problem.
What is it that you want.
What do you want.
The idea won't come to be.
Let's get over the problem and focus towards the solution.
Let's start chunking up.
What do we actually want to hear.
What do we want.
All.
I just want to be acknowledged.
I just want to be heard or listened to.
Okay let's stay with that.
For what purpose for what purpose do you want to be ignored and here too.
Because I have a really good idea that I'd like to share with the team.
So no we're focussing on the intrinsic value.
The reason why the problem is a problem rather than the problem itself which natives of a can actually
more than enough to completely eradicate a problem within itself anyway.
So no they were focussed on what the problem is not the farming sense and were focussed on know what
she actually wants.
We can start setting goals.
OK so this is what you want you've got this proposal you've got this idea you've got this dream this
vision this goal.
How specifically are we going to start to bring this girl to fruition and we're stuck choking down again.
So chunkin at this establishment what we actually want and why the problem is a problem in chunking
down is about okay what are the practical steps that we're going to have to start taking in order to
bring in this vision or this desired outcome to reality.
Chunking up for what purpose.
What is it we actually want.
Why is this problem the problem.
Chunking down.
How specifically are we going to start resolving this problem.
No.
What we're starting to do is use various language Partons and communication techniques to start getting
people or our life coaching clients more gall forecast more goal orientated.
No it's probably going to be quite clear for you to see where we're going to be going on to next because
once with established and moved beyond identity issues with move beyond.
Call foul use.
We kind of know what it is that people are are driven by.
We know that if someone is say for example in a dead end job to behave with not being acknowledged or
not be listened to.
The big problem that the harvest.
There are significant for you most of their value of significance most likely isn't being met which
which could be because of what they're saying or how they're seeing what they're seeing.
So we're using our communication skills styles approaches untaped needs to reflect back to them what
it is that we are hearing them say so we can just repackage what they are saying and help them to recognise
and look upon their own approach.
From our perspective or from a second rate perspective no I don't know if any of this makes sense to
you but I'm going to share with you here an idea in the next video is called perceptual positions.
And when it comes to communicating are you may have heard me talk few times now about subjectivity and
objectivity subjective experience an object of experience.
Walk in the next video I'm going to show you exactly what I mean by this because we only ever really
get stuck in a problem in life when we get stuck inside of the context of our own object of experience.
So it's through using chunking up questions and chunking down for what purpose.
Why.
Which are why questions and how specifically which are more detailed focussed questions that we're able
to shift in and out of different perspectives to view the problems that we have or help our clients
to view the problems that they have from alterative and contrasting perspectives because it's only through
viewing these problems through alternative perspectives that work.
If there were ever going to be able to integrate more objectivity into the context of our own lives
and fewer problems therefore then from more off um objective and realistic perspective so complicated
perhaps.
I appreciate it but you might have to take a few takes in this venue.
You may need to watch it again here in mind.
It's taken me years to really come to understand this stuff.
I'm explaining it the best way that I am able to.
But it might not be the way in which you need me to so I'd just like to reiterate again.
At this stage of the course I do appreciate and covering some big ideas now.
I mean it's really important that you understand this stuff.
So if there's anything that I've shared with you.
Up until this point of the course that one doesn't make complete sense then please ask me a question
let me know because the more the bigger questions the more the questions I feel are off quite great
importance.
I will answer in video format moving forward so that all other students in the course from all around
the world can also benefit so if there's anything about this it doesn't make sense at all.
Our job is to get in touch and ask me.
Or alternatively start investing some time into studying new ruling w6 programming.
It's a phenomenal body of information that you can use to really focus in on mastering our communications.
I mean I can make the section of the course about 20 hours long but it's just not practical.
Would watch it.
So I'm really just giving you some taster's here and pointing you in the right direction of where to
look.
If you want to take any of this stuff that I've shared with you through this section further so I hope
this makes sense in the next video we're ability a little loop perceptual positions and how it is so
we can start influencing the stance that people take when they're looking.
Are there problems.
Because my friend's perception is absolutely everything isn't it.
Before see me again the next clip.